Well Defined

Did you ever google your name? Well I did only because I was curious as to what other meanings there were for my name. I’ve always known that “Monique” meant wise advisor and counselor. I recently found out it means alone too which could explain my single status. It’s the French version of Monica. Clearly it’s hard for people to pronounce my name even though it’s very simple (Pronunciation: moh-neek) but we’re not focused on that. So anyway, I found out that my name means many other things.

The Urban Dictionary which I find somewhat offensive, says this:

“A traditional name for a very beautiful young lady with an amazing personality. Acts too tough and then can break down in rapid mood swings but still, everyone loves her anyway. Someone that is sarcastic and infuriating, yet you still love them to bits. A person that is very true to herself. Very honest about most topics, unless it would hurt ones feelings if talked about to others. Can be somewhat bossy at times, and very self-conscious. Cares too much about those close to her, and can’t stand betrayals. In general, doesn’t want to feel left out, but will change for the people she loves. Can be very verbal, overly defensive, and a real strict disciplinarian she can also be quiet, thoughtful, seductive and mysterious. Monique’s are creative, intelligent and dislikes clutter, and loud obnoxious stuff others call music. To win this girl, honesty, and truth will get you on a higher ranking than lies and flattery. Don’t expect this girl to be subservient, treat her as an equal and don’t try to control her. She will only put up with so much bull before she kicks you to the curb, and she won’t care a bit about your bruised ego at that point. She’s so amazing and so sexy. She has the greatest eyes, and the most beautiful smile. She’s the best kisser, too. Her personality is to die for. A girl who everyone can’t help but love. She tries her best to please everyone, and to be the best person she could be. She’s extremely likable with her weird sense of humor and love of having fun with her friends. Nobody has a bad thing to say about her because she cares about people so much. She makes the guys go wild because of how pretty and genuine she is, and she cares a lot about everyone. You couldn’t ask for a better friend. A girl that is energetic and loves art. Monique is a fantastic person to be around and in the company of. A really hot girl who is the best kind of girl for relationships. A girl who is random, goes crazy at times, and has naturally curly hair. She’s one in a million.”


Some other definitions are as follows:

“You have psychic power. You have a receptive nature and may bear burdens for others. You are pragmatic, thorough, strong-willed, practical and stubborn at times. You are hard working, often martyr to duty. You like home and security above all. You are frank, methodical and believe in law, system and order. Dependable, very down-to-earth and well grounded, you are always looking for meaningful work, a career where you can take pride in your work and do the best job you are capable of. Your prime desire is to build protected and secure environment at home and at work. You can be very persuasive in achieving goals and gaining objectives. You can be very detailed and well-organized and possess great organizational skills. At times you may appear too stubborn and overly critical to others, but your practical approach to life and productivity makes you one of the most beneficent members of community.”


“Monique is a simple and natural woman who has her feet on the ground. In effect, despite of the fact that she is thoughtful, strong-minded, frank and honest by nature; she nonetheless tends to doubt in herself and conceals her uncomfortable sensitivity behind a facade of apparent indifference. She loathes superficiality and is herself somebody who can be counted on and is as good as her word. Her moral code is strict and her standards are high, which means that she can lack tolerance; she considers that anything that she can do is also within the reach of others. She is capable of taking calculated risks and seizing the opportunities that present themselves to her with dynamism, initiative and a tremendous capacity for effort. She is a sensible child who doesn´t present any problems for her parents who should provide a flexible upbringing because strictness of any kind is liable to reinforce her already acute sense of duty. Appreciates a job well done, physical exercise, plants, animals and nature. She enjoys change, movement and travel; while she is quick-thinking, swift and efficient. When it comes to demonstrations of love and affection, one must make allowances for her modesty and reserve. Monique could experience a certain amount of restriction and hardship, with regards to either her family or her health. Nevertheless, if fate deals her a blow she is quite capable of picking herself up and dusting herself off, and more often than not she tends to seek solace in her work, displaying a steely ambition.”


“Desires change and varied experiences in order to avoid monotony, and yet you are attuned to system, order, and attention to detail. You can be very analytical, exacting, and patient in your undertakings until your interest is exhausted, at which time you switch to something else even though it means leaving your undertakings unfinished. This name makes you inquisitive and scientific in your approach to life, requiring everything to be proved to satisfy your skepticism.”


Alright, if that doesn’t describe me almost to a T, I don’t know what does. Can’t believe it could define my physical characteristics as well as my talents just by my name. Not bad at all! I even have a mountain named after me. That’s pretty cool!

Wikipedia  says: Mount Monique is a mountain, about 600 m high, with a prominent rocky north face and ice-covered south slopes, at the western end of the Marion Nunataks on the north coast of  Charcot Island in the east Bellinghausen Sea of Antarctica. 


So the overall purpose of this was to redefine myself. On a daily basis I am complimented on what I look like. I swear if I hear the word ‘beautiful’ one more time I’m going to scream. It means nothing to me b/c I despise vanity and I’ve never viewed myself the way others have. People really just walk up to me and tell me how pretty I am. It’s annoying as hell! The only way I would take it as a positive is if someone wants to know what I do as my beauty regimen or if a guy asked me on a date. Cancer normally brings about nothing but negativity. In my case my usual confaux-dence will now be the confidence builder that I needed. Can’t hurt my feelings anymore saying I’m ugly or weird looking or any other bs thing you can think of to try to put me down. If you haven’t forgotten, I beat cancer so I’m a warrior. Nothing hurts me anymore.  Anyway, with the new year I think that I might just start talking about what I do that makes me who I am, what makes me a natural beauty. Before cancer I had very low self-esteem and I never believed I could look even half as good as I do now. Since the world wants to deem me as beautiful, I’m going to gracefully accept my new title. As far as I’m concerned Monique now means Beautiful Goddess.