I’ve been reading a lot about relationships, soulmates, life partners and even how to love someone that doesn’t know how to be loved. All of these topics seem so simple to resolve and so basic in explanation but they’re so much more complicated than that. Dealing with someone outside of yourself isn’t easy. If there’s no understanding of where that person is coming from or what they’ve been through which explains why they might be a little different now, then it won’t work. You have to communicate! That’s the number one thing that will make or break any type of relationship. If you can’t express how you feel in a productive way that brings the two of you closer then you will notice that you will start to be pushed further apart. Of all people, your partner should be easy to talk to and communicate with. Why would you want to be with someone that you consider to be scary or mean? We’re talking about the other part of you that helps to make you even more whole than you already are. That part can’t be toxic or not ripe enough b/c the relationship is serious. This isn’t a game! I don’t get why people will go into serious situations like nothing matters, like no responsibility needs to be taken, like they can just have a do over if things didn’t go as planned. A relationship is work period. What you put in you need to want to grow and become something beautiful or why waste your time?
Some just like the words but cant express the actions related to them. Of course that’s about growth through maturity not age. So anyone at any given age can know what they want and how they want it. The growth is willing to do what it takes to have what we truly want. When you have strong foundations everything that comes forth from it will be great. Can’t let the fear of failure keep you from what your heart desires. If the thought of the other person not being in your life is imaginable, then fight for them to stay. Why push away God’s blessing? Yes there will be changes b/c in life nothing stays the same. You have to able to handle the grown up things if you want to make grown up decisions. There are consequences to all actions. Some people think they can just go around breaking hearts and taking numbers. Everything you do will catch up to you in due time. Do you really want to be that person that gave up on love b/c you let fear take over what could’ve been? At some point you will want to wake up from the dream and live it in reality.
Act like you know what you’re doing. Act like you know this is what you really want or not. Act like you know both our hearts matter. Act like you know this is about love. Act like you know this is real. Act like you know God is running this show. Act like you know me!
I’m feeling some kind of way. I thought that once I got into my 30’s folks would judge me less b/c I was at my comfortable grown age. But boy was I wrong! I hate having to defend and explain myself. Yes we all shouldn’t care what other say about us but come on I’m human. I have feelings regardless of popular belief.
I unlike many women have a lot of guy friends. I enjoy the company of males over females. Could be b/c I can relate to them more since I’m on tomboy, guy’s girl, non-high maintenance level. I’m not a girlie girl but I can most definitely dress to the nines when necessary. I’m more of a fan of sneakers and yoga pants. Sorry I can’t get down with the heels, makeup and street walker outfits. But trust, I can make a man cry working some sweats!
It’s just that when you’re different and not what others are used to, you get judged. Everything about me is judged no matter what. Just have to get used to not being the world’s cup of tea I guess. I love being in my Mo-ness 24/7 original glam. If the glow of me is too much for your eyes put your shades on!
Literally the most wonderful thing happened to me. I’m still in disbelief! I’ll explain as best I can. Basically my biggest dream came true and I’m really happy about it.
So this is how it went down. I’ve always been someone who loves love and couldn’t wait to experience it with a great man. After dealing with so many assholes that I swear that’s all I could attract, something crazy happened. I finally opened my damn eyes and saw that my dream guy that I’ve spent like half my life praying for and believing was Prince Charming ready to sweep me off my feet was right freaking in front of my face and in my life this whole time. I know I’m oblivious as all hell and unless I’m told flat out I will miss every signal or clue any decent guy is sending me. To think my best friend whom I confide in, talk to everyday just about, go everywhere important with, who supports me, calms me and listens to everything I say even when I’m crying about some jerk that broke my heart was my true soulmate.
We’re talking about the sweetest, kindest, well mannered, most caring gentleman on the planet. I mean a man that meets all of my standards to a “T” yet I tried to hook him up with other people b/c I have these weird rules. Friends are just friends and boyfriends are just boyfriends. This keeps everything organized for me with no confusion from anyone. I never look at my friends outside of the zone. When I kept ignoring him as a possibility, God put the smack down on me. He had everyone I knew and just met suggesting my bestie. It wasn’t until I asked him for the umpteenth time if he liked me that he actually gave me an honest answer. The shock! It finally clicked and my blinders came off.
Folks I had the most amazing man, my dream guy playing the super friend role so well for so long. A man that has been praying to God asking if I’m who he has for him. That’s what I’ve always wanted, someone to know I’m the one and that they want me to be the one. Never has it been so easy to build upon what we already had. Having everyone in our corner wishing us nothing but well. Not something I’m used to at all except in my dreams. He makes me smile, feel happier than I’ve ever been. My heart is mended and all the bad memories no longer exist. He’s the ying to my yang, the sun to my moon. Yeah I sound all cheesy and whack but I don’t care what anyone thinks anymore. I always knew what kind of friend I had and now what kind of man. Patience is something I learned the hard way and even though I’m no youngin, it was so worth the wait.
God’s plan might not be your plan but it’s a darn good one! Stay blessed ~The Goddess
Since this is my very first post I think I should introduce myself. I’m Mo! There’s no other way to put it but I’m a lot of woman and most people can’t handle me in any way, shape or form. My Mo-ness is contagious and addicting. I have no problem being open and expressing myself. If you don’t like what I have to say, I suggest you just don’t listen b/c I speak truth. Never will you catch me not keeping it real but don’t expect me to cater to your feelings. I used to be too caring and that got me in really messed up positions I choose to never be in ever again. I write for me and me only but if in some way my words inspire or encourage someone, that’s a great feeling but it’s not my intention.
I’m a breast cancer survivor only 1yr cancer free as of April 1st. So I went from being a really nice person who put everyone before myself to a one woman show. The min I decided to fend for myself was the best moment of my life. People take advantage of you when you’re too soft. After cancer, I’m harder than steel. You can’t break me but you can sure try especially if you enjoy pain. With my new found strength came strong ass words. I don’t need to ever use my fists b/c my words make folks cry. It’s not a regular thing, just if you take me there and trust, you don’t want to go there.
I consider myself above a Queen, I’m a Goddess! How that came about is a really long story that I have no patience to explain right now. All you need to know is I earned the title and my French name translates to “wise advisor & counselor.” I’ve had the ability to give really great advice my whole life. I have advised people on subjects I haven’t even experienced yet. It’s a God given talent I guess and I’ve helped so many people in the process. The only issue is that I can’t take my own advice. Sad but true so I’m hoping my soul mate is the type of guy that not only can understand me but will give me great advice. I’ve waited a long time for that to happen and I think I’ll be waiting even longer b/c it takes a real man to handle all this woman.
So that’s a little about me but don’t worry there’s more to come!